Codul bunelor maniere la nunta/ Code of Good Manners at Wedding

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Pentru ca suntem in perioada nuntilor si m-am gandit sa scriu un articol util, pentru orice invitat la o astfel de ceremonie. Cu siguranta vremurile s-au schimbat, dar exista cateva reguli de bun simt care trebuie respectate. Incearca pe cat posibil sa urmezi aceste reguli si cu siguranta vei lasa o impresie buna. Mirii vor aprecia purtarea ta si iti vor fi recunoscatori.

 

1.  Invitatia

Cand primesti invitatia multumeste mirilor ca te vor aproape la acest eveniment important din viata lor. Raspunde in cel mai scurt timp la invitatie indiferent de raspuns. Daca nu poti participa  prezinta scuze si adreseaza urari de bine cuplului care se casatoreste. Nu lasa mirii sa astepte pana in ultimul moment, cu siguranta acestia vor dori sa stie exact cati invitati vor avea la nunta, pentru a comanda meniurile. In cazul in care nu esti casatorit/a, verifica cu viitorii miri daca poti participa la nunta insotit/a.

La un astfel de eveniment este indicat sa participi fara copii. Totusi, daca invitatia se adreseaza in mod specific intregii familii, asigura-te ca micutii vor fi disciplinati si ca nu vor cauza neplaceri in timpul evenimentului.

 

2. Vestimentatia

Tinuta potrivita trebuie sa fie in concordanta cu locatia si stilul evenimentului. Exista petreceri tematice unde se specifica pe invitatie un anumit cod vestimentar ce nu trebuie ignorat. Daca nu este specificat stilul, alege o vestimentatie eleganta si decenta.

Femeile vor purta tocuri si vor evita culoarea alba sau asemanatoare, deoarece aceasta culoare este rezervata in exclusivitate miresei. Desigur, daca mirii au alte cerinte atunci poti ignora aceasta regula. Evita decolteurile adanci sau fustele prea scurte. De preferat este sa optezi pentru culori vesele, pastelate sau metalice.  Doamnele isi vor reface machiajul sau coafura intr-un loc retras.

Barbatii se vor imbraca in costum clasic, sau semi-formal, dar vor evita nasturii descheiati la camasa sau incaltamintea tip sandala, sau pantofi sport.

In cazul in care vremea este rece sau ploioasa si aveti pardesiu sau pelerina, acestea vor fi lasate la garderoba. Nu veti veni cu ele la masa.

3. Cununia

Daca alegeti sa participati la cununia religioasa incercati sa fiti punctuali si sa nu intarziati la slujba de cununie. Daca totusi, nu aveti cum sa ajungeti la timp, intrati in biserica discret, fara sa deranjati oficierea evenimentului.  Dupa terminarea slujbei, veti felicita mirii, nasii si parintii mirilor.

 

4. La restaurant

Nu vei intra in restaurant decat dupa ce vei fi primit de catre miri si nasi. Nu uita de urari!

Cadourile! Daca ati ales sa aduceti un cadou nu este nevoie sa il inmanati direct mirilor. Ar trebui sa existe un loc special (o masa pentru cadouri), unde sa le lasati. Atasati cadoului o cartea de vizita sau o felicitare semnata in clar, cu numele complet astfel incat mirii sa poate identifica de unde provine cadoul. In cazul in care ati trimis cadoul inainte de nunta, nu intrebati mirii in ziua evenimentului daca le-a placut.

In timpul petrecerii se obisnuieste ca mirii sa treaca pe la masa fiecarui invitat. Nu monopolizati timpul mirilor, faceti cateva urari scurte si exprimati-va bucuria pentru evenimentul fericit, si permiteti-le sa continue cu ceilalti invitati.

Bauturile: Nu uita ca atentia ar trebui sa se concentreze asupra mirilor si a petrecerii. Nu exagera cu bauturile alcoolice.  Consuma totul cu masura astfel incat sa nu atragi atentia asupra ta intr-un mod negativ! Chiar daca masa cu bauturi este in apropiere, nu este politicos sa va duceti sa va umpleti singuri paharul. Asteptati sa vina un ospatar la masa si ii veti spune ce doriti sa beti.

Mancarea:  In cazul in care aveti restrictii de dieta, este recomandat sa anuntati acest lucru in momentul in care raspundeti la invitatie. Daca nu ati facut acest lucru, nu faceti caz de situatie. Alegeti din cadrul meniului ce puteti manca si dati deoparte restul.

Inainte de a incepe sa mancati veti aseza servetul din panza pe picioare, indoit. Urmarirea codului bunelor maniere in ceea ce priveste tacamurile este foarte simpla: incepeti din exterior, mergeti catre farfurii si nu refolositi tacamurile de la un fel de mancare la altul.

Daca mancarea este adusa in farfurii, veti manca atat cat puteti, iar cand ati hotarat ca nu mai mancati, veti pune tacamurile asezate paralel pe farfurie. Daca este o nunta la care mancarea este pe o masa speciala, tip bufet, de unde trebuie sa va serviti singuri, veti lua ceea ce doriti, punand cu lingura din bol sau din platou in farfuria dumneavoastra. E nepoliticos sa umpleti farfuria cu varf. Puteti sa mai luati si mai tarziu, daca mai doriti.

Fumatorii vor avea grija sa nu aprinda tigara langa o persoana care mananca.

5. Dansul

Seara se va deschide cu dansul mirilor, si oricat de mult va place o melodie va trebui sa asteptati si sa priviti mirii. Alaturati-va lor abia dupa ce tinerii casatoriti sau un organizator ii invita pe nuntasi pe ringul de dans.

 

6. Plecarea

Incercati sa nu plecati inainte de taierea tortului. La plecare, va veti lua ramas bun de la miri, de la parintii acestora, de la nasi, multumind pentru invitatie si adresandu-le urari de bine. Daca mirii sunt ocupati cu alti invitati este indicat sa ii asteptati si sa le multumiti pentru invitatia pe care v-au facut-o.

 

English:

 

We are in the wedding period and I thought I would write a useful article for any guest at such a ceremony. Surely times have changed, but there are some common sense rules to follow. Try as much as possible to follow these rules and you will definitely leave a good impression. Grooms will appreciate your behavior and will be grateful.

 

1. Invitation

When you receive the invitation, thank to grooms that they want you to be with them in this important event of their lives. Respond as soon as possible to the invitation, no matter what the answer is. If you can not participate, apologize and address good wishes to the married couple. Do not let the grooms wait until the last moment, they will surely want to know exactly how many guests will have at the wedding. If you are not married, check with grooms if you can come with someone at the wedding.

At such an event it is advisable to participate without children. However, if the invitation specifically addresses the whole family, make sure the little ones are disciplined and do not cause misery during the event.

 

2. Clothing

The right outfit should be consistent with the location and style of the event. There are theme parties where a certain dress code is specified on the invitation, and should not be ignored. If the style is not specified, choose an elegant and decent clothing.

Women will wear heels and will avoid white or similar color because this color is reserved exclusively for the bride. Of course, if the bride has other requirements then you can ignore this rule. Avoid the decolletage, or skirts too short. It is preferable to choose bright, pastel or metallic colors. Ladies will rebuild their makeup or hairstyle in a secluded place.

Men will dress in a classic or semi-formal suit, but will avoid the buttons closed on the shirt or the sandals, or the sports shoes.

If the weather is cold or rainy and you have a overcoat or a cape, they will be left in the wardrobe. You will not come with them at the table.

3. Wedding

If you choose to participate in the religious ceremony, try to be punctual and not delay the religious ceremony. If, however, you can not get on time, enter the church, discreetly, without disturbing the event. After the ceremony, you will congratulate the grooms, the godparents and the bride’s parents.

 

4. At the restaurant

You will not enter the restaurant until after you are welcomed by the bride and groom. Do not forget the wishes!

Gifts! If you chose to bring a gift, you do not need to hand it directly to the grooms. There should be a special place (a gift table) where you can leave it. Attach a gift card or greeting card with a full name so that the bride can identify where the gift comes from. If you sent the gift before the wedding, do not ask the grooms on the day of the event if they liked it.

During the party, it is customary for the grooms to go to each guest’s table. Do not monopolize the time of the grooms, make some short wishes and express your joy for the happy event, and let them continue with the other guests.

Beverages: Remember that attention should focus on bride and groom. Do not exaggerate with alcoholic drinks. Consume everything with care so you do not draw your attention in a negative way! Even if the beverage table is nearby, it is not polite to go and fill your own glass. Wait for a waiter to come to the table and tell him what you want to drink.

Food: If you have restrictions on dieting, it is advisable to announce this when you respond to the invitation. If you have not done so, do not make the case. Choose from the menu what you can eat and set aside the rest.

Before you start eating, you will put in the lap, the canvas servlet, bent. Following the code of good manners with regard to tableware is very simple: start from the outside, go to the plates and do not reuse tableware from one dish to another.

If food is brought to the plates, you will eat as much as you can, and when you decide not to eat anymore, you will put the cutlery, placed in parallel on the plate. If it is a wedding where the food is on a special buffet table, where you have to serve yourself, you will get what you want by using the spoon from the bowl or plate into your plate. It’s rude to fill the plate. You can get some food later, if you want more.

Smokers will be careful not to light the cigarette next to a person who eats.

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5. Dance

The evening opens with the dance of the bride, and as much as you like a song, you have to wait and see the grooms. Join them only after the married young people or an organizer invites the wedding guests to the dance floor.

6. Leaving

Try not to leave before the cake cutting. Upon leaving, you’ll enjoy goodbye from the grooms, the grooms parents, from their godparents, thanks for the invitation and wish them well. If the grooms are busy with other guests it is advisable to wait and thank them for the invitation they have made.

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    • Anca 10/10/2018 at 6:12 am Reply

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