Code of Good Manners at Wedding

We are in the wedding period and I thought I would write a useful article for any guest at such a ceremony. Surely times have changed, but there are some common sense rules to follow.

We are in the wedding period and I thought I would write a useful article for any guest at such a ceremony. Surely times have changed, but there are some common sense rules to follow. Try as much as possible to follow these rules and you will definitely leave a good impression. Grooms will appreciate your behavior and will be grateful.


1. Invitation

When you receive the invitation, thank to grooms that they want you to be with them in this important event of their lives. Respond as soon as possible to the invitation, no matter what the answer is. If you can not participate, apologize and address good wishes to the married couple. Do not let the grooms wait until the last moment, they will surely want to know exactly how many guests will have at the wedding. If you are not married, check with grooms if you can come with someone at the wedding.

At such an event it is advisable to participate without children. However, if the invitation specifically addresses the whole family, make sure the little ones are disciplined and do not cause misery during the event.


2. Clothing

The right outfit should be consistent with the location and style of the event. There are theme parties where a certain dress code is specified on the invitation, and should not be ignored. If the style is not specified, choose an elegant and decent clothing.

Women will wear heels and will avoid white or similar color because this color is reserved exclusively for the bride. Of course, if the bride has other requirements then you can ignore this rule. Avoid the decolletage, or skirts too short. It is preferable to choose bright, pastel or metallic colors. Ladies will rebuild their makeup or hairstyle in a secluded place.

Men will dress in a classic or semi-formal suit, but will avoid the buttons closed on the shirt or the sandals, or the sports shoes.

If the weather is cold or rainy and you have a overcoat or a cape, they will be left in the wardrobe. You will not come with them at the table.

3. Wedding

If you choose to participate in the religious ceremony, try to be punctual and not delay the religious ceremony. If, however, you can not get on time, enter the church, discreetly, without disturbing the event. After the ceremony, you will congratulate the grooms, the godparents and the bride’s parents.


4. At the restaurant

You will not enter the restaurant until after you are welcomed by the bride and groom. Do not forget the wishes!

Gifts! If you chose to bring a gift, you do not need to hand it directly to the grooms. There should be a special place (a gift table) where you can leave it. Attach a gift card or greeting card with a full name so that the bride can identify where the gift comes from. If you sent the gift before the wedding, do not ask the grooms on the day of the event if they liked it.

During the party, it is customary for the grooms to go to each guest’s table. Do not monopolize the time of the grooms, make some short wishes and express your joy for the happy event, and let them continue with the other guests.

Beverages: Remember that attention should focus on bride and groom. Do not exaggerate with alcoholic drinks. Consume everything with care so you do not draw your attention in a negative way! Even if the beverage table is nearby, it is not polite to go and fill your own glass. Wait for a waiter to come to the table and tell him what you want to drink.

Food: If you have restrictions on dieting, it is advisable to announce this when you respond to the invitation. If you have not done so, do not make the case. Choose from the menu what you can eat and set aside the rest.

Before you start eating, you will put in the lap, the canvas servlet, bent. Following the code of good manners with regard to tableware is very simple: start from the outside, go to the plates and do not reuse tableware from one dish to another.

If food is brought to the plates, you will eat as much as you can, and when you decide not to eat anymore, you will put the cutlery, placed in parallel on the plate. If it is a wedding where the food is on a special buffet table, where you have to serve yourself, you will get what you want by using the spoon from the bowl or plate into your plate. It’s rude to fill the plate. You can get some food later, if you want more.

Smokers will be careful not to light the cigarette next to a person who eats.


5. Dance

The evening opens with the dance of the bride, and as much as you like a song, you have to wait and see the grooms. Join them only after the married young people or an organizer invites the wedding guests to the dance floor.

6. Leaving

Try not to leave before the cake cutting. Upon leaving, you’ll enjoy goodbye from the grooms, the grooms parents, from their godparents, thanks for the invitation and wish them well. If the grooms are busy with other guests it is advisable to wait and thank them for the invitation they have made.

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